A mother holds the key to a real home


By Fr. Danny Ferrandiz
For the Umatuna Si Yu’os

Jesus said: “Do not let your hearts be troubled… In my Father’s house, there are many dwelling places…” Jesus was talking about our heavenly homes. But what about our earthly homes? Our earthly home must be a glimpse of our abode in Heaven. But what do we really mean by a home? The idea of a home is universal but it means something different to many of us. Many people today live different situations at home hence, each has a different experience of what a home is.

Let’s try to uncover the root meaning of the word Home. The English word “HOME” is from the old English word “HAM” which refers to a village where many people are gathered. It implies physical dwelling yes, but the main idea is the “gathering of people”, a place of affections.

No wonder if we go back to the words of Jesus he describes Heaven as a HOME and started it with the words: “Do not let your hearts be troubled.” Jesus mentions hearts because truly a home is where the people and their hearts are connected. Home is the abiding place of the affections, a place where it evokes many warm sentiments. It evokes feelings of rest, security, peace and memories of the people there waiting to be with us.

At the center of a home are hearts of people whom we love and trust. This is why most of our homes have pictures hung on the wall to show to visitors who our ancestors and loved ones were that once lived in that home. The pictures show connections. For others, the house is a symbol of the parents’ hard work that gave them comfort and security. In short, a home is a place of MEMORIES AND FEELINGS.

Home is the abiding place of the affections, a place where it evokes many warm sentiments. It evokes feelings of rest, security, peace and memories of the people there waiting to be with us.

Today, we continue this tradition but more so to show the hearts and faces of the people that are welcome in our homes. The hearts of people gathered inside this space are what defines a HOME.

MOTHER’S DAY. What is the connection of the home that Jesus describes and mothers? When a man marries a woman, spiritually, they become one heart and one soul. They are connected. When a mother conceives a child, that connection is not only spiritual but physical. 

A study conducted by HeartMath Institute entitled: Heart-Brain Synchronization between Mother and Baby notes the heart and brain interactions between a mother and her infant. It says that the electromagnetic signals generated by the heart have the capacity to affect others around us.

The study further states that the signal was not always detectable but applied to mothers, when the mother tuned her focus on the baby the signal was clearly detectable. It appears in the study that when the mother placed her attention on the baby that she became more sensitive to the subtle electromagnetic signals generated by the infant’s heart. In a real home, mothers are persons that connect to the people around her. Her heart is one with her family.

Real homes are more than material or financial assets. It has deep emotional meaning. That is why Jesus emphasized the troubled less hearts. He said: “Do not let your hearts be troubled.” A mother who has a troubled heart sends troubled signals to those around her. A real home is a place of abiding affections, of feelings and sentiments and mothers hold the key to that permanent connections of everyone’s heart in the family.

Whether your home is a mansion, a modest apartment or a townhouse, the fact still remains that the hearts that enter its doorway is what truly defines it as a home. No child will ever describe his home by enumerating the assets provided by or house their family lives in. But rather, a happy child will make an emotional accounting.

Did he or she feel well-loved? Was he or she listened to? Were his or her dreams encouraged? If you want to put something that lasts “in the bank” for your kids, tell them that whether you live in a big house, a little house or an apartment that you will always be a family and that you will think about them every day and kiss them goodnight wherever they go to sleep.

That is what makes a home, a dwelling place of God; an earthly Heaven. And that what makes a real mother in a real home – a person who is the source of love and communicates this love to those around her. She holds the key that connects. What about you mothers out there? Are you a connector or a disconnector? Jesus tells us that in Heaven He will prepare our homes. But the question is: Will you be a worthy dweller of that home?